Friday, October 9, 2015
There is such a thing as a legal or legitimate family. This is one where there is a husband and wife and their children. This is a proper home and considered to be a "good home." This is where the parents raise up "good girls" and "good boys." It is a solid home where good values and morals are taught and loved. It is the ideal where the Bible is paramount. The standards of godly living, prayer, church attendance, the reading of Scripture, family altar, charitable giving, and the service of others are the foundation that keep the home together.
This is a stable home. It is a place a child will love and remember fondly when he is grown.
Many years ago, if a child was born outside of wedlock, the clerk would stamp "illegitimate" (or a much harsher term) on the birth certificate.
An illegitimate baby had a stigma attached to the child for its entire life. It meant that this child was not "issued" from a married mother and father. It did not come out of a pure and holy union (a legal union). When this child grew up and wanted to marry, the records would come up letting all know that this person was from an "illegitimate" union, which was very sad and certainly unfair to the innocent child!
A fear of having this stamped on a legal document made many women marry quickly. Marriage before the birth protected both the good name of the mother and the good name of the child. Marriage helped establish a legal family and start a proper home.
In 1936, the first law was passed, in the state of Texas, to remove the word "illegitimate" from birth certificates. There was opposition to this law, arguing that it would destroy the "sanctity of the home." While it is true that our society has changed drastically since this time period, there is also some truth to the fact that a "legal" home, or one of Biblical values and morals, is more rare than not.
Today, Mothers and Fathers are not in any hurry to marry. It is okay, in the eyes of our culture, to live together without first having a wedding. It is even common to move around from house to house and from person to person, without the stability of having the same mother and father through one's childhood.
This ought not to be!
There should be a call from the older and wiser to teach the next generation that a legitimate family is a beautiful and necessary thing. Biblical standards are not outdated. There is an incredible blessing when one follows the path to a sanctified home and strives for a holy and pure family life starting with a wedding.
In these days, homes across the land can be restored and "legitimate" by taking those simple steps of getting married and committing to the family unit regardless of the popularity of marriage, or the financial difficulties!
Certainly, this may not be possible in all situations, but it should be the goal for every home to one day be "legitimate." What a wonderful ambition is this, to restore godliness and happy homes to Biblical standards, bringing back the sanctity of the home!
To help with a happy home:
From the Archives -
Motherhood - "How a Godly Mother May Guide an Imperfect Family"
Some Help - "Getting Along in Marriage"
Financial Struggles - "When We Can't Endure a Little Hardship"
The Joy of Having Children in the Home - "A House Full of Babies"
Mrs. White's special book for Homemakers - "Mother's Book of Home Economics."
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