Monday, July 18, 2016
It used to be that a wife was greatly needed to make a home a place of rest and refreshment for her family. I remember seeing my Uncle (a preacher in the south) and Aunt in their home. They lived in a trailer on some acres of land out in the country. It was a wonderful place to visit.
My Uncle had a recliner and he would sit there at the end of the day, watching the news on television while his wife prepared supper. She made all the meals in the home and kept a clean and lovely home. She made sure he had a glass of iced tea on hot summer days, and had his coffee ready when he needed it. They were a happy and lovely couple, each knowing what jobs they were to do to have a happy marriage and a happy home. My Uncle worked at a regular job and he also worked in the church as the preacher. He preached the sermons, studied his Bible, prayed, visited the sick, took care of the congregation, provided for his family, and rested in his home. He was able to do all these things because he had a dedicated, loving wife at home.
My mother took care of my father. She served him, out of love and respect. They adored each other, always wanting to do special things for one another to show they were loved. But Mother did the homekeeping. She made the coffee, cooked the meals and cleaned the house. Our home was a place of rest. There was no bickering, or fights about who was supposed to do the laundry. There were no complaints about all the cooking and cleaning. Mother would never even think of saying to Dad, "You get your own coffee, you have two feet. Get it yourself." That was not the kind of home we had. I think those types of fights are from people who tend to be either over-stressed or selfish.
I realize we are all imperfect people, doing our best in whatever work we are given to do in this life. We also have to serve imperfect people, and sometimes that means doing nice things for people who are grumpy. (gentle smiles). But there is an angelic way of serving others. It is a way to do kind things, taking care of them, even when there is no reward. Most all husbands have moments of irritability. This is especially common because they work out in a stressful word. But a wife who takes care of her "Mister" regardless of his disposition, is a great blessing to her family. Her job is to create a bit of heaven on earth by being a homemaker. Her job is so important to her husband, whether anyone realizes it or not!
The other day, I noticed my husband was in a tremendous amount of pain. I noticed this only because he was extra grumpy and short tempered. So I brought him a cup of coffee, and made sure he was comfortable in his chair. I sweetly asked if there was anything else he needed, then I got back to my kitchen to do the dishes while listening to precious old gospel songs on the radio. There is no way to serve our husbands in a sweet and sacrificial way unless we are full of the joy of the Lord.
There is a way to be an angelic wife. We need to start fresh each day to do better. Here are some ways of becoming a loving servant in the home:
1. Take time to read much of the Bible.
2. Pray at regular times and throughout the day. (Thanksgiving prayers, and for help.)
3. Listen to sermons on CD, or on the computer, or read over your notes from church services.
4. Do your very best to attend a good, old fashioned church each week.
5. Take extra effort and care each day to go out of your way to do something kind for your husband. (Such as making his favorite dessert, ironing his favorite shirt, serving his dinner before anyone else, telling him you appreciate him, etc.)
The kinder you are to your husband, the softer his heart will be towards you. Every time we serve our husbands in the home, by cooking the meals, cleaning the house, taking care of the children (in a loving and grateful way) we are serving the Lord. That is the most important thing. Being a good wife is serving the Lord. When we do this cheerfully and happily, we will be rewarded with a grateful and happy husband.
It is the happiest moment in my day, when I bring Mister his coffee and see him smile a loving smile. I am doing what my mother and aunt and all the wonderful wives before me have done all along. It is the secret of a happy godly marriage - to serve our husbands in the home.
From the Archives -
So Precious - A Wife Who Does Not Complain.
Remembering my Childhood - Saturday Morning Chores.
Bring Back Manners - Mrs. or Miss and other Titles of Respect.
Mrs. White's special book for Homemakers - "Mother's Book of Home Economics."
An Invitation - Subscribe to The Legacy of Home and have it delivered directly to your email.