Monday, October 8, 2012

Forgotten Kindness in Marriage

Library of Congress: Couple working in the garden, Oregon, 1939.


There is a joke that once a couple gets married, all the nice gestures end. Things like opening doors for a lady, or baking a favorite dessert for a gentleman, just don't happen anymore. Why is this often the case? Because so many worldly cares come in and rob us of our best behavior.  We get caught  up in trials and worries, and have trouble taking the time to do nice things for those in our own homes.

Lately, this seems to have happened in our house.    Mr. White and I have been on alert-mode, solving problems.  There has been little time for slowing down.  Today, we had a lovely time annoying each other (smiles), and then apologizing. 

Then he made the first effort. . . He turned on "The Waltons" on Television. He knows I love that program.  He would never watch it, unless he was being nice to me.   I was grateful.  Later, while I cleaned the kitchen, I asked him if he would like something to eat.   These were the little gestures of affection that we had been neglecting. 

It was time to shut out the worries, the problems, the trials, and just slow down our home life and be nice

Then we took a drive to the hospital where our second grandchild had just been born.  We both held the new little treasure. It is a girl, and she is very precious.  When it was time to leave, Mr. White opened the car door for me.  I was content and happy. 

It only takes a few minutes to swallow our pride, control our temper, and be nice.  These little sweet actions can help make a marriage a precious, cherished institution. It also makes home a little heaven on earth.

Mrs. White

From the Archives -

Are you one of these? - The Old Time Housewife.

It Happens - When Mother Is Late for Her Shift.

When There Isn't Much Money - To Encourage the Downcast Housewife.

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Carol said...

Congratulations Mrs. White on the new bundles of joy to your family. Thank you for the reminder that little things do make a difference. I always love reading your page. Thank you for the time and effort that you put into it. I know it greatly influences me to work towards a simpler life.

Cathy said...

Such a good reminder to be kind to our spouses, and congratulations on grand daughter number two! She's blessed to have you for grand parents.

Tracey said...

I couldn't agree more! I try to make things for my husband that he really likes..just made homemade donuts for him. It's easy to do and really shows him I'm thinking of him. He does the same for takes a little effort, but so worth it in the end!!!

A Proverbs 31 Wife said...

I find you again! Now I am going to subscribe :) Great post and I would like to invite you to share it at Matrimonial Mondays with my readers :)

Kathy said...

Thank you for the reminder! I need to build up my husband more.

Congratulations on your newest grandchild. Hope everyone is doing well.

Dena Damron said...

Congratulations on grandbaby no. 2!! Hope all is going well:)

Sugar 'n' Grace said...

Can I just say...I love your blog! You have no idea how much encouragement you have given me, how many times during a day you cross my mind, or how many times I've needed some extra "oomph" to get myself in gear as a wife and mom and your posts have given it to me. On any given day or task, I will wonder how you would tackle it and then go from there. I tend to come here and read several posts at at time and I always leave feeling so much better for it. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

Cindy @ Fenced in Family said...

A sweet reminder (and one that I need to hear), thank you. And congratulations on your new little grandbaby. :-)

Mrs. Laura Lane said...

What an important reminder. We lost some of our kindness during our "survival mode" living for several years. I'm going to try to do much better.

Laura in AZ said...

Congratulations on your 2 grandchildren, Mrs. White!

My family is also going through some trials and like you, I've learned that it's a little easier to face these challenges when we remember to treat one another with loving kindness.

God Bless you and your family.

Unknown said...

So important just to take the time and remember those important things, huh? :) Congratulations on another special blessing in the happy for you all!!

Mrs. Sarah Coller

Anonymous said...

I love your blog and appreciate your encouragement for these times. I am a mom of both adult children and several little ones, who is trying to stretch every dollar of one hardworking man's income and maintain a decent quality of life for my family. With your encouragement, I find myself wiping off the countertops, putting a fresh tablecloth on the table, dimming the lights in the diningroom and lighting an candle (to save electricity) with a grateful heart. Congratulations on the birth of your grandchildren and thank you again. whtmtngirl