Monday, July 13, 2015

Mister is Not Able to Work
Visiting by the back fence at Mrs White's Vermont Estate

A couple of months ago, Mister was in an accident.  He has not been able to work.  He is under medical care and must spend time in convalescence.  We are now living on a smaller, fixed income.  This has been a shocking change in our lives.  I have been so used to my husband as the provider and protector of our home. And now I am taking care of him.

For the first month I went with him to all of his doctor appointments.  I would bring one of my favorite books, Dombey and Son by Dickens, and would read in the waiting room.  I did all the shopping and driving.  Back at home, I would sit with him and just try to keep him calm.  He didn't like what was happening to him. He wanted to work and to be okay.   He would sit by the front window, cane beside him, and look out at the front landscape of our property and wish he could do the labor of caring for the grounds.  This had always been his job and he loved it.  It was hard to see the yard look so neglected and him feeling helpless.  One of our boys has taken over this job.

Slowly, we are learning how to cope from day to day.   We enjoy our little car trips to the doctors.  Then we come home and rest while Mister has his coffee.  I will go outside for my daily walk about the grounds to see the wildflowers growing by the barn, or to look at the river at the back border.  I tell him all about my "adventures."  Then it is time for us both to rest.

We read the Bible together and pray each day.  We know he will heal and things will get back to normal again.  For now, it feels like we are feeble and elderly, living a quiet life with physical suffering.  But there is great peace and faith in our souls.

This is the cup we have been given.  We will gladly drink it.   

In the midst of all this, we find time to laugh, to dream, and to enjoy our children and grandchildren. Life has to go on, no matter what else may come.   I have become stronger with more endurance because of all the extra work I must do here at home.  This morning, I put on my apron and opened all the windows. The birds are singing a sweet melody in the front garden.  I am going to make tea and have a homemade blueberry muffin.  Soon it will be time for homeschool with my teenager. Then I will talk to my older children on the telephone.  I will visit with the grandbabies and delight in their presence.  But most of all, I will take care of Mister, here at home, where I will always be. 

Mrs. White

From the Archives -

Missing the days of - Depending on Mister.

What Life is Like - Living Without Credit Cards.

A great blessing to be one of these - The Old Time Housewife.

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Debbie said...

Mrs. White,
I hope your husband recovers fully and can get back to doing what he loves to do. I'm sure he is enjoying his time with you, in the meantime.


Melissa M. said...

I am so sorry about Mr.'s accident! I am praying that he heals quickly!

Jennifer Williams said...

Dear Mrs. White,
I am so sorry about your husband's accident! I know that can't be easy for either on of you. But I know the Lord will provide your husband with healing, and you with the strength and courage to get through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for sharing. Have a blessed day! :-)

Shani said...

Dear Mrs. White, my prayers for Mister will be added to all of the other people I am privileged to pray for. May you offer up your suffering for His glory, and may Mister heal quickly.
May the good God bless you and keep you, and make His face to shine upon you.
Mrs. Skutt

June Fuentes @ A Wise Woman Builds Her Home said...

Praying for a quick recovery!

lin said...

Thank you for this sweet post. I hope he is feeling stronger soon, and glad to hear of your improved stamina! Thanks for this glimpse into your day.

Darla Mae said...

Good Day!
I have been where you are now and I know it is not easy. It took four years for my husband to be able to work again. And it is at a different job as he was unable to do his previous one.

You have an excellent attitude and along with your faith, it will help you tremendously.

Blessings to you and your family,
Mrs. Roudebush

Unknown said...

Dear Mrs. White,

I am so sorry to hear about the Mister. I pray for quick recovery and strength for you.

Linda said...

I hope things will get better for you very soon.
I will pray for you and your family.

Mrs. Laura Lane said...

Father God, I thank you that you protected Mr. White in his accident. I pray for complete healing and restoration of function in all ways. I plead the blood of Jesus over the Whites, their healing, their finances, and their home. Thank you Jesus! Amen.

KayeB said...

Dear Mrs White, You truly give thanks in all circumstances. This is a great testimony and inspiration to us. I do hope that Mister is soon able to return to his work. Praying for you. xo. Kaye from Australia.

Cranberry Morning said...

I am sorry to hear of your Mister suffering this accident and not being able to work. I'm sure he's in physical pain and feeling frustrated. We never know what the next day will bring. Your trust in God and willingness to drink the cup set before you, blessed my heart this morning.

Lana said...

Praying for a complete recovery. Eighteen months ago yesterday, my husband had a heart attack and was many months at home and under my care. He was allowed to do very little. I was thankful that it was winter and we did not have much to do outside since it is only the two of us. Now we can look back on that time as a blessing of rest for him and much time that we could spend together. I pray that you can find a blessing in this time, too.

Rose said...

I ordered your book which came yesterday! Mothers Book of Home Economics, I cant put it down, but I have to so I can do my housework :) Its wonderful and so freeing, what inspiration you have given me, Thank you so much. Best wishes to you and Mr White.